What We Say On Social Media Matters…

With many of us proudly showcasing our card making online, it is essential now more than ever to remember that words can hurt. Advice for and criticism of other’s crafting may not always be read in the manner it was intended...

It is universal knowledge that words can hurt. Mix cruel words with a bad day, week or month, those words that are so carelessly spoken can be truly damaging. It is beyond important to be aware of our behaviour toward others when interacting online; behind every computer screen is a real person who has thoughts and feelings and all of the normal day to day worries going on. We are all people. Actual, real, hardworking people, with feelings and emotions - this is true whether you are a beginner card maker, a frequent crafter, or a card making superstar. No one wants or deserves to be attacked, abused or picked on.

We’re not saying that you should never offer advice or honesty; in fact, many fellow card makers often ask for it! You can, however, do it in a kind way. Think about how you are saying things and the words that you use. Online interaction can easily come across very differently to a spoken conversation, with sarcasm and jokes often seeming far more hurtful than intended.

It can be even more damaging if such things are said within a public forum, essentially shaming the recipient in front of hundreds, even thousands of other
people. You would never announce in front of a group of friends that one friend has food in their teeth; you would take them aside and inform them privately.
Online interaction should be no different when it comes to criticism.

As we were all told as children: if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all! There is no obligation for you to get involved with something that you’re not keen on; you can always choose to scroll on by. Remember to use empathy and sympathy. Put yourself in their position. Card makers are a special community; we’re a truly unique group and at the end of the day we’re all in the same boat when it comes to crafting. We all just want to make our cards, enjoy our work, and have others enjoy it also.

There’s no need to be cruel in public or private. Just be nice! The world is a better place with kindness. Every time you interact, YOU choose
your own behaviour. So why don’t you ask yourself: am I going to make someone’s day better today? Because, well, why not?!

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